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The first agency he went to refused to help him because he wasn't gay, but the next in Beverly Hills helped him achieve his goal. So instead of spending the next two years trying to meet someone and start a family with them, he investigated surrogacy options and pursued this route. He admits he had tried online dating and considered carrying on trying to find a woman who he could have a family with but felt 'time was not on my side'. Ian spent £50,000 in order to have the three boys after contacting a surrogacy agency in his fifties
He also left voice recordings for her to play to Miles whilst in the womb. But, now he's here, these things matter less and less.'ĭavid and Faye kept in regular contact and visited one another's hometowns during the pregnancy. 'Having that clear biological connection was one of the reasons I choose surrogacy instead of fostering or adoption. I had this need to be instantly recognisable as his father. At the time I felt it important my baby looked like me. 'I wanted to match the donor's characteristics to mine. I was extremely lucky as there can be waits of many many months for egg donors in the UK. 'I don't think it would have worked if her whole family wasn't on board.'Īfter three months of getting to know one another, the pair began the embryo transfer process in October 2019.ĭavid had four embryos 'ready and waiting' at CRGH fertility clinic in London.Ī pregnancy test revealed two lines in November 2019.ĭavid said: 'They found a donor pretty quickly. 'I connected with her husband Lee, who is a musician, as I am a writer by heart so we shared a creative passion. 'I was so grateful that she approached me and wanted to help as she was amazing. 'She didn't want to have any more children of her own but wanted to help others. Speaking about his meeting with Faye, he added: 'Faye and I met in July 2019 and we instantly clicked. 'Being a single dad is quite liberating as I can raise him exactly how I want.' 'It is hard being a single parent but I wouldn't have it any other way. 'I was elated when the law changed for single people and immediately started my journey to fatherhood. 'But I thought it may not be possible as it was very expensive for a surrogate abroad and I didn't want to fake a relationship to have my name on the birth certificate.
The teacher, who works with deaf students, said he was 'elated' when the law changed as he didn't want to wait to find a partner before becoming a father.
This meant that single parents were unable to get a parental order and, theoretically, the surrogate could reclaim the child at any time.įortunately for David, the law changed in 2019 to allow single parents to also apply for the order to become the child's legal parent. Previously, only couples were able to apply for a parental order, which transfers parentage from the surrogate to the intended parents after the baby is born. They clicked and Faye, who is a mother-of-two, reached out to David and volunteered to carry Miles.ĭavid chose an anonymous egg donor who had similar characteristics to himself such as Caucasian background and blue eyes. He welcomed his son Miles, now six months old, into the world on July 19 2020.ĭavid met his surrogate Faye Spreadbury, 37, from Leicester, East Midlands, at a social event. A gay teacher has become a single father by choice after using a surrogate and anonymous egg donor.ĭavid Watkins, 42, from Southampton, Hampshire, is one of the first single men in the UK to have a surrogate baby after a law change in January 2019.